Avoid Boring People
#35 - 05.16.2021
Brother,
"Avoid Boring People"
Three words and two meanings. Most people understand the first (i.e., be around interesting people), some don't get the second (i.e., be interesting yourself, so you don't ‘bore’ others).
The quote comes from James Watson, the guy who co-discovered DNA. There isn't a deeper connection I'm aware of with the phrase and DNA, but it's a fun fact nonetheless.
These last few weeks, I've been lucky to travel across Jordan and Egypt and hang out with some incredible people. Entrepreneurs, diplomats, tour guides, free-divers, DJs, and triathletes. Many of them fit multiple definitions.
When engaging with them, I'm reminded of how much time and identity Uber took from me. As I met new people, they'd ask me what I do… and it was tough for me to respond. Currently, I'm an unemployed aspiring entrepreneur (or writer) who spent the last decade giving 120% to the companies I've worked for.
If you are working 120% of the time on a company - it also owns many of your interests. It's great if that is your own company (like Dad's or any of the other entrepreneurs), but giving founder-like energy to someone else's likely isn't worth it in the long run.
It's a reminder always to make time to do interesting stuff. It's a broad definition and personal to each of us - with a magnetic benefit. Do interesting stuff, and others will find you.
Beyond your activities, make sure to inquire about others. Build momentum in conversations and stay engaged when others talk about their interests. Listen intently. You never know what you'll discover.
Let me leave you with a quote and a question
"Talk to someone about themselves, and they'll listen for hours."
-Dale Carnegie
What interests of yours drive your identity?
Enjoy the dance,
Nate